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Day 4

Do you remember how it felt when you were being nurtured by someone (your wife/husband, your mom/dad, your grandma/grandpa, your friends, your boss…, your collaborators)?

It makes us feel warm (if not hot!) and so proud, doesn’t it?!? and we will, for sure, use that steam, that energy, to do even more, even better.

All it took was someone’s small effort of telling us how good we were at something we have done…

A small effort…

Well… it actually comprises a few factors we need to review:

a) Attention and openness – they had to be attentive enough to you so that they’ve noticed your actions, or sufficiently open to LISTEN to your words and intention;

b) Appreciation – they had to compare your actions or your gestures to the standard in order to perceive how different for the better you were;

c) Respect – that’s what they’re showing when they are letting you know how they feel about what you’ve done.

d) Mutuality – usually, when someone praises you for something you’ve done, they are also ready to give back something extra to you…; they count on you, and they are letting you know you can count on them.

So… do remember to praise them when that happens. Truly. Genuinely. From the heart*.

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(Just in case you need a guide on how to praise someone, how to recognize a high quality moment or action provided by someone you care for, let me lay the steps I see as needed:

1. Pay attention to all those who live their lives within the same circles you do;

2. Keep an open mind (so that you may allow yourself to grow, you need to continuously check your own paradigms, and, in order to do that, the easiest way is to be attentive to other’s paradigms and open to discuss the concepts they’re based upon, rechecking your own ones); and

3. Say or (hand)write a note in which you:

a) State what made you enjoy what you’ve witnessed;

b) Identify how it has changed the moment to you and/or everyone else involved;

c) Highlight the trait of attitude you’ve seen in action.

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Do you remember how it felt the last time you’ve been nurtured by someone (your wife/husband, your mom/dad, your grandma/grandpa, your friends, your boss…, your collaborators)?

Do you know when’s the right time to restart nurturing your close connections?

Now! (I guess…), so, please, do feel free to leave and start (hand)writing your notes!

Here’s to a pleasant future!

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Notes:

i. My natural answer for Day 4 suggested ‘Daily question’ would only have three words: nurturing close connections)

ii. heart* = the particle of god within you; the core center of your emotions (not the muscle).

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